#16 - 05/03/07 09:26 PM
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Julia
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I am writing about my husbands ex wife who is a nut case. She tries in every way to cause problems in our marriage. /At first when we were dating she called my husband to tell him she was pregnant by some guy and he would answer her calls. A few days later she calls me and tells me that my fiance was going to help take care of her since she was pregnant. He always said he would take care of her. I told the bitch she was crazy and she got herself in this problem and could find her on way out. (this was also 2 mo. before our wedding) After this episode we never heard anything else about a pregnancy. Then she wanted to come to our wedding and when I told her she wasn't invited....she explained that all exwives now days go to their ex's wedding and sit on the front row so, they can congratulate them first. I told her I guess I was old fashioned because she still wasn't invited. She has made up lies (ex. your husband told me he still loves me) I know this is not true for the fact we record all conversations. He told me in the begining never to believe her because she is a manipulator and is vindictive. I guess I should also she mention she cheated on him several times before he finally got a divorce. They have a 12 yr.old son who is so brain washed by this crazy bitch he doesn't even know what is true and not. She has asked him if I had a boob job and that was when he was 10 yrs. old. You don't ask a child to look at someones boobs! We have been married 6 yrs. and finally got away from some of her s%$& and now she has started in again. She has turned my stepson against me because I am the evil stepmom. We have to watch everything we say and do when he is here because he has been trained to sneak around and bring her information, which she tries to use against us. Yes, things are tense when he comes. If you have crazy stories about problems ex spouses please post. I would love to read them. All I can say is in 5 yrs. when she does not hold child support over our head and I going to tell the bitch all the stuff I've wanted to say for years. I could ramble on on and on but, I will quit for now.
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#19 - 05/19/07 05:18 PM
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I too have a pyscho ex-wife I have to deal with. You are not alone!!
My boyfriend's ex-wife has actually checked herself in to a mental hospital, so when I say she is psycho there is more truth in that than you know!! She checked herself in when they were married. He had to go and meet with the doctors and when he left he asked the doctor what he should do. The doctor actually told him to "wear an armored suit." That's right shes a certified crazy bitch!
Now that he and I are together she has directed her psycho-ness towards our relationship with full force. Just the other day I received a package, sent priority mail, with clay dog [censored] in it. There is actually a website you can go to and order it, send it to whomever, and they delete your records in 24 hours so it can't be tracked. She's a huge computer geek and has no job, she has all the time in the world. Let's just say she received a pretty nice settlement so she doesn't have to work. She wouldn't work anyway, she is completely lazy. It cracks me up, when she says I am with him because he has money! She gets his entire pay check and then some! And with every check he writes to her, he says thats the best money he has ever spent!
I don't even want to start on the things she has told her 11 year old about me and his dad! I entirely understand how you feel with your step son. Things kids DO NOT need to know about or be asked about. Its disgusting what she has told him. Not what a mother should be chatting with her kid about. Just the other day he asked me, "what is a whore?" NICE. And she calls herself a mother. She needs to find herself some friends so she can move on with her life and let her son be a kid instead of mom's shoulder to cry on.
I have plenty more stories. I just wanted you to know "Psycho" is in my life too. Aren't we lucky!
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#32 - 05/23/07 01:51 PM
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I am glad to know my husband is not the only one with the vindictive, crazy exwife. If you would like to talk email me. I bet we could swap several stories. Good Luck and hang in there. If anyone else had stories I would love to hear them.
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#33 - 05/24/07 05:04 PM
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there are many of us out here that are being hurt and abused from our husbands ex wives. We try to keep the peace and not say anything to "rock the boat," but you know sometimes the humiation is too much and you have to stand up and say something or loose your self respect. I have kept quiet many times when Io shuld have said something. My husbands ex has been coniving behind my back from the beginning, I didn't recognize it for what it was until it was almost too late. I have stepped up and demanded that it stopped. My husband told his kids we deserve a life and we were going to have it. With or without them in our life. There was not a time that my step children did not bring up Judy (the ex), when they were here. It was alwaays something about her looks or what she was doing (sexually), yes she talked to her two girls about her and her new husbands sex life and wanted the girls to convey to their father when and how she was having it. The limit was one day the youngest was here, she called her mother from my phone and her mother told her her jeans were stuck to her thighs because she had just had sex with her husband! (HELLO! has she ever heard of a wash clothe? She thought it was something we should know and all it did was tell us how nasty she was. What kind of mother talks like that? Cathy said "Oh she tells me about their sex life all the time." Well she can tell her what she wants but we dont need to hear it!
The kids dont come here unless they want to borrow money, there is always some kind of drama going on. We have put more money out on them than I can total. I know we wont ever get it back despite the promises of repaying. Then there is the ex in the background telling them that their father did not want them when they got divorced, but he got custody of all four kids (from 6 months to 7 years old) Yeah, she is some kind of mom, huh? She has turned all the kids against their father by her lies and still keeps trying to break us up by causing problems when we all have to be at family functions, she makes sure to do things like put her butt in our faces as she slides down the pew. yells out inapproiately to bring attention to her. She waits till I walk away before she goes running up to Vince, her standing with her hands on her hips looking up at my husband trying to flirt with him. When I walk back up she scrambled like a toad in mud trying to get away from him. If she had something to say could she not say it in front of me? Every conversation has to have some kind of sexual innuendo to it. She is so sleazy. This woman is 45 years old and wears jeans so tight her cellulite shows through hte material.She really thinks she looks hot! I am not imagining this as several people have observed her and made comments about her narcisistic ways. We just leave when she gets too much, but I am tired of having to be on my guard all the time and not be able to enjoy being with my grand kids. We have been married eight years, they have been divorced twentythree or four years. Why do they scumbag ex wives do this. Why dont some of you exes log in and explain why you act this way? I am really curious as to why you would try to hurt someone that long.
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#86 - 05/26/07 10:19 AM
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Dixcov,
The limit was one day the youngest was here, she called her mother from my phone and her mother told her her jeans were stuck to her thighs because she had just had sex with her husband!
You've got to be kidding me? What kind of skank is going to tell her kid that her pants are stuck to her from some guys sperm? How totally gross! Instead of offering her a wash cloth, how about taking her to a car wash instead. I'm sure there's more to wash off than just some guys load.
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#309 - 06/01/07 02:00 PM
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Woah - I'm happy that I've never had to deal with something like that. But do you think they were like that before when your husbands were married to them or did the divorce drive them nutts?
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#470 - 06/03/07 03:05 PM
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They really are psycho! It's amazing how you managed to deal with them - not everybod would be able to handle such a situation.
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#480 - 06/11/07 04:42 PM
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I think they were already crazy and the bitterness and lonelyness drives them over the edge. They have problems getting over the past. Especially when they have children and they feel abandoned. If they are gold diggers or want to live like the Jones's, its five times worse, because they agressively pursue child support for more money like the man is a millionaire.
Once the husband gets remarried, they think you are to blame for child support problems and all of the problems they are having with the kids. (like not cleaning their room , give me a break!)
I feel sorry for the man who gets my husbands ex-wife, especially if she has any more kids.
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#481 - 06/11/07 05:21 PM
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my stepdaughter who never calls unless she wants something called yesterday and had the nerve to want us to buy them a swimming pool! This is one week after she called and needed money for food (she said). Does this horror ever end?!! She has a husband who has not had a steady job in eight years! He sits on his butt and sues people who do put him to work. Then they live like kings for awhile, then the money is gone and they come begging again. I am going to have a meltdown if things dont change. Will these spoiled brats ever grow up? We have not and will not give them any more money. Then they withhold the grandkids. That really sucks, but when they get older they will know what has been going on.
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#482 - 06/11/07 07:07 PM
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some of these women are doing their best to cauase havac in their ex husbands marriage. some are just vindictive and cant stand to see that he is finally happy. One time at Christmas, all the kids were here and naturally they called their mother. She immediately turned the concversaton to sex (her sister who is a crack whoare) was there. This added fuel to the fire. Everything that came out of their mouth was nasty. Then came the (I'll come over there and take care of you real good. Stuff like that.) She has the kids call all the time to ask for money, (for the kids supposedly), but we know where the money goes. She actually told the kids about six years ago, that the only reason that Vince got custody was because he did not want to pay child support. Well no judge in the land would give four childre (6 months to seven years old) to a man who is in the army. It was very hard on him, but he did it. She was not and still is not able to take care of the kids. This woman is 45 going on 20 ( she thinks). She drives a school bus and drinks on Sundays and drives a bus on monday. I asked Cathy about this and she said "Oh she knows when to quit. If it was my kid on the bus I would not let him get on it. It seems they have different rules in Dallas Ga, from the rest of the state. Cathy called me one night, I could tell she had been drinking and I could hear her mother in the background telling her what to say. Where are all of you exes out there? Why dont you respond and let us in on what is going through your mind when you inflict this kind of damage onto our families? I love my grandchildren very much and I miss them, but I am tired of walking on eggshells. afraid I might say something and they wont let the kids come see us anymore. I honestly could care less if I ever see any of the grown kids anymore because of the hurt they have caused me, but I do want to spend tiem with my beautiful grandchildren. If they would just come see us and not ask for money everytime and make their mother the main topic of conversation I could handle it. Anybody have any advice or a legal way to get back at this bitch from hell??? PLEASE!!!
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#483 - 06/13/07 08:17 PM
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I have felt many times to get revenge on this woman who has tried relentlessly to break up our marriage. I have decided to let the bitch hang her own self. People like that are self destructive and it is getting around town what a liar she is. When she sees people she acts like her and my husband are still on the best of terms if I would just stay out of the way. Well I have news for her! Im not going anywhere. We stay away from functions where she will be there. I am missing out on some things, but I still have my dignity. The first time they test her at work she will be busted if its on a monday. She has caused damage to the kids and they will never qccept me so what the hell! I have never been called a bitch so many times in my life as I have by the two stepdaughters. I have not told my husband half of what they have said about him and me. No reason to hurt him any more than they already have. One day I will confront her and I will embarress the hell out of her for what she has done. Strange that not one of the ex wives have jumped in on this discusion. I think it is because they know how stupid they are being.
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#484 - 06/14/07 12:14 PM
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My husband’s ex-wife just won’t quit. She still tries to talk to him like he is still her husband. I think she tries to make him jealous or me, by talking about health, boyfriends, old classmates. It’s amazing how she will talk about her children and then get off the subject. She had on short night gown when we showed up one time to pick up the kids and he also has another child (different mom), who noticed the skimpy clothes. She always tries to make it seem like I don’t want her kids around, when that’s not true.
What I don’t like is when its time to take them back, they always show up late or tell my husband they have not kept them long enough on the weekend. The ex, think 2 days is not enough. Also, one of the 2 children may not be his and I have never accepted the child or feel connected. He didn’t sign the birth certificate and was not there for the birth. She never asks for help for this child. My husband was separated at the time she became pregnant, so it’s a 50/50 chance. The child looks like the mother and has no features or personality traits like him. This is a major issue for me, because she has given us such a hard time especially about child support and is so disrespectful of me. If this child is not his, I don’t want to be involved in raising the child. He has already said that he will let the child know if he is not the father and he won’t be mean but he is not going to financially responsible for taking care of this child. If the child is not his, I am going to make her leave us alone after the other child is grown, by bringing up her lies. We are going to get a paternity test pretty soon.
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#506 - 06/29/07 09:32 AM
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i havent written in awhile, but I had to update you. My husbands psyco ex wife is the one with the jeans sticking to her after sex and telling her daughter while she was at my house for all to hear! Well, I have had my grand daughter for the past week. She told me last night that her nanny says bad words about her grandpa. This is while tiffy is in the room with them. Tiffy said that she says the b word and the a word. That she wants to be back with him and I got in the way. This is coming out of a seven year old little girls mouth! I told her next time they started talking about her grandpa to tell them that it is not nice what they are saying and it is not true. Their grandpa loves all the grandchildren and would do anything for them. He does not deserve to be served up at the kitchen table around a bitter old woman who had her chance and blew it. Judy is intent on turning our grandchildren against us. I may call her myself and give her an ear full. She is a short fat pig of a woman, who married another man, just to try to make my husband jealous! He was way over her before I came along, they cant stand it because he is truley happy and he quit giving all his money away to the spoiled brats. Tiffy told me she cant stand to hear her nanny talk because she talks so nasty. I wish I could have five minutes alone in a room with her (with no repercussions) I am not a fighter or violent in any way, but this pushes me to my limit. I hope she reaps what she sows! It is funny, but not one ex wife has had the balls to come online and explain why they do what they do. Cowards!!
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#553 - 08/03/07 02:08 AM
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I'm new and am going through the Big D right now. I left because she was verbally abusive and liked to throw things at me. In the end she started slapping me. All this put me in a bad depression and I finally got out before I did something to myself. Anywho, it was the hardest desicion of my life (to leave my son) but by the grace of God did I go. I am in the process of getting myself established and have a steady job. I post because she is physco and is exhibting all the signs of the crazy ex. I need help/advice in combating this. My lawyer tells me to be patient while this all plays out but I take a beating from her via emails almost daily. I can stand up for myself now (better than I did) but she is using my son as a pawn. I;m not laying down for this because I believe my son is better off with me. Any advice to fight this.
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#554 - 08/03/07 09:09 PM
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ProuD - you did the right thing (and I know, the painful thing) by getting away from her where you could work on establishing a new life - one that will be a good place for your son. Having steady employment is a super plus, as well as having a residence where your son can have his own room. Beyond that, assuming that you intend to get a divorce or legal separation and asking for primary or sole custody of your son, here are a few tips:
1) She's probably going to try to attack your character. Don't play her game. The court's primary concern will be who can provide the best, safest, most stable environment for the child. Let her be the yeller and screamer. You stay calm, don't respond to her. This isn't between you and her, it'll be between you and the judge. Don't let her getting emotional pull you away from the task.
2) The more prepared you are, the better case you can present. Don't forget these important things:
- prepare a budget that includes expenses specifically earmarked for things like school supplies, school clothes, doctor checkups, dentist checkups, any trips that might be needed to visit grandparents, etc.
- if you don't already have health and dental insurance on your son, get it if you can possibly afford it. If you can't afford it now, be sure to research and be able to quote how much it would cost (and then be sure to include this amount in any child support you request)
- research the schools in your area, be prepared to show the court that you have your finger on the pulse of the life you could provide to your child if given custody (for example, if your area has a "magnet" school, make sure you mention that you are aware that this could be a possibility for your child)
- make sure you have a realistic plan for childcare when you are at work (school daycare, after school program, baby sitter, etc.)
- check out the area where you plan to live with your child. Show the court that your area has XYZ parks or playgrounds, XYZ community centers, XYZ activities for kids, little league, boy scouts, etc. You can also go to the website of your city police department or sheriff's office and get crime maps that show what's happening where. If you live in an area that by comparison is pretty good, be sure to print out those maps and bring them with you.
Each of these things are intented to show the court that you have really done your homework to be able to provide for the care and safety and physical and emotional health of your child. Score big points.
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#566 - 08/15/07 06:48 PM
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Thank you so much for the information. It is so frustrating because it is always a game with her and right now I'm having to pay everything. Court system is so slow. It's hard to hang in there sometimes but my lawyer says that it will pay off later but I'm not hopeful sometimes. But thanks for the encouragement.
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#567 - 08/15/07 06:51 PM
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BTW I'm military so the health coverage is good but the threat of deployment always looms. Also I'm trying to get into a bigger apartment but right now I can only afford a one bedroom. If I didn't have to pay mortage also I would be good. A second job helps but only to break even and the court doesn't seem too concerned about that.
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#568 - 08/17/07 05:32 PM
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i havent spoke on this in awhile, (im the one with husbands ex who tells us about her sex life and jeans sticking to her nasty after sex thighs. Things were quiet till two days ago, dianne (the oldest) called us and was crying and saying she was kicking her husband out. This is fine, but the real reason she called was she wants to know if we will help her! That is all we have been doing. This means she is going to hit us up for money. I am sure that they will get back together. My husband asked why she had decided to do this and she said she was tired of having all the burden on her. Then when we pressed her she admitted to have been talking to several of her old male boy) friends (sexual) all this time (they have been married 10 years.) He found out and was enraged that she has been communicating with these guys all along. I would be furious too! What is you guys opinion on staying in touch with three or four old boyfriends? I know that if my husband was doing that (without my knowledge) I would be furious! I certainly would want to know. I believe they call this emotional affairs. No I would not tolerate it. Yet she thinks we are supposed to take over for her bills! She has her sister and her brother in law moving in. There is no reason for her being broke, because she is the one with the good job and has been paying bills sll along! I will help her with the grandchildren, but I wont let her take us for hundreds even thousands like she has done in the past. Any helpful advice out there?
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#569 - 08/18/07 08:41 AM
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I'm not sure what a guys opinion is, but it seems to me that some changes could be made at home. By this I mean there is no reason that your husband should allow his ex to think that she can call and cry on his shoulder any time something is not going right in her life. There is nothing good that can come out of him keeping his relationship with his ex on such a personal level. As long as he allows her to think that he will allways be there for her, she will continue to keep up that sort of activity.
Your husbands ex definately sounds like she is screwed up in the head and I totally feel for you. It's a shame that we not only marry our husbands but at times also their exes.
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#578 - 08/20/07 03:04 PM
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I got an interesting phone call from my husbands 27 year old daughter this morning. She has decided to end her 11 year marriage. I dont know if she will go through it but who knows! Anyway she said her younger half sisters boyfriend had thrown a knife at her sister and her mother had called the guy up and told him he had better not ever do that again or she would come after him! OOOHH! If it had been my daughter I would have called the police immediately. She may have given him the impression that nothing was going to be done about it. She probably just signed her daughters death certificate. Why are these ignorant mothers not standing up for their daughters? They are such redneck women that they think this is the way of the world. I dont know, but she need not try to drag my husband into this sordid upside down life they are living in dallas and temple ga. My stepdaughter has taken to calling and all she wants to do is talk about her mother. I am sick of hearing about an ignorant woman who has repeatedly try to break me and my husband up from the beginning. Both daughters have tried to break us up and frankly I dont believe a damned thing they say. They call with all this drama and expect my husband to come out there and jump into that kind of life again. He has repeatedly told them to leave us out of all this but they still throw her into the mix whenever we talk. I dont want this woman in our life!! We have told her to stop but there she is always! I did not sign up for this kind of [censored]. We have been married for seven going into eight years. Does it ever end?
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