#35 - 05/25/07 06:39 PM
Is Stalking Taken Seriously?
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littlecat123
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When I lived in Florida, I was stalked by someone who lived in my apartment community. This person had come into the hospital where I worked and when she had to wait a long time, first she dove across the nurse's station to try to attack me (and was carried out by security). She started calling my work and them apartment managers making up lies about my life.
I went to the police and they agreed to follow me home for a few mornings but that was all they did.
It certainly didn't feel like they took me seriously. Fortunately, I was moving in about 2 weeks and I was able to leave the whole situation behind.
Has anyone else felt like they weren't taken seriously when they reported stalking?
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#241 - 05/31/07 04:06 PM
Re: Is Stalking Taken Seriously?
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Mirranda
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Personally I've never been stalked and I hope that I never have to live through a situation like that. Stalkers cause a great deal of stress. Has this is somehow affected you - do you feel any preasure stacking up?
Anyway I'm really happy that you're leaving that whole situation behind you.
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#325 - 06/01/07 08:57 PM
Re: Is Stalking Taken Seriously?
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littlecat123
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It doesn't affect me anymore. It was about 11 years ago. I worry for my daughter though -- when she is older and dating. There are so many ways to stalk people now -- on the computer, with the cell phone, etc.
I guess that's how it primarily affects me -- is I will be hypervigilant for my daughter.
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#335 - 06/02/07 12:07 AM
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Patricia
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You should warn her about stalking,but you I don't think you should worry so much - stalking is common ,but not that common.
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#517 - 07/08/07 01:19 PM
Re: Is Stalking Taken Seriously?
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After a SINGLE incident of violence, that's when you need a restraining order. Without one, police don't have probable cause to interfere until violence happens again...they can't tell people to stay away from public places that aren't covered in a court order. Of course on private property is another matter. Most businesses can file a trespass warning, telling the person that they are subject to arrest if they come on the property again, but working in a hospital, this probably wouldn't happen because the hospital would worry about liability issues (what happens if the stalker is in a car wreck and is refusd at the hospital?). At the apartment complex, management isn't going to trespass someone who is paying rent - although if they were alerted that this person had a history of violence and/or threats against another tenent they would have grounds for involuntary eviction (which would take at least 30 days). But a restraining order can order a stalker to stay x amount of distance away from you and CAN result in police intervention and arrest if violated. Basically the restraining order turns certain "everyday" activities into actionable offenses based on your fear of additional actions of this person.
see: http://www.aardvarc.org/stalking/main.shtml
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#659 - 09/01/07 05:29 AM
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Kris
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i do not always think enough is done about stalking. It seems the person actually has to harm you in some way before it is taken overly seriously. But that is a scary thought as you want protection before you are hurt.
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#1002 - 09/09/07 07:30 PM
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gilipsie
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littlecat, the must have been hard to live through. I'm happy that it didn't last long.
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#1103 - 09/19/07 05:09 PM
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Shadow
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I agree. I have never been the victim of stalking, but I can just imagine that it must be very terrifying. Especially when the poice seem to not take you seriously.
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#1636 - 02/29/08 08:44 AM
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Ellcee
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No, stalking is not taken seriousy until someone gets killed then everyone acts so surprised, like HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN... when it is actually very clear how it happened if someone would just listen to the target and make some attempt to help. Stalkers will stop at nothing to get the target under his control. I have been stalked for years and nothing was done until recently when the stalker became more blatant in his activies, but still not enough has been done. Hes still stalking me. How sad that this would happen to anyone. Ellcee
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